Making changesI know that everyone says "You have to do it for you" regarding lots of changes we make in life, including weight loss. I also know this is an unpopular opinion to many, but I have been in a place in my life in the past with other issues, where I was just not strong enough, nor did I care ENOUGH about myself to make the necessary changes.
I'm bipolar and when I was younger (around 19) and my current bf (now of 16 years) moved in, I saw how the bipolar was terrorizing him, I sought treatment, I spent 5 years trying meds that DID. NOT. WORK. and caused me tons of suffering all because I had to at least TRY. I tried numerous therapies, medications, hell I even tried to meditate. Hard to do with manic racing thoughts though. ha.
Don't stop believing
Anyhow, the point is, today I am here, 31, an age I never thought I'd make it to due to my bipolar. Every DAY after 30 is a gift. The fifth year of my med trials and treatments, I was taken off all 7 of the zombifying drugs I was on and put on Abilify.
It has changed my life. No side effects and I can honestly say I am stable, content, happy to be me. The point is, I did all that for him. I was a walking time bomb, I didn't care about myself before, I just knew I saw pain and suffering in his eyes as he watched me destroy myself.
Now a days, I do it for me, because I don't want to lose who I am now. I never want to be the girl using the psych hospital like a 'revolving door' ever again, I don't want to need that kind of help in my life. I am grateful it was available to me when I was unwell, but when you leave they all wish you well and say "We hope to never see you again!" and I hope they never do.
What are you willing to do for those you love and who love you?
My point? Sometimes in the moment when we most need to make big changes in our lives, we are just unable to do it FOR ourselves. We might have the desire, but we lack the passion or commitment or the self-respect, so I say if you can't do it for yourself, if you try and fail and try and fail, try doing it for someone you love.
In regards to weight, I love my bf dearly and I want us to both just live forever or at least grow old together, it's important that we both be healthy for that to happen. I don't want to leave behind my friends or people I love early because I couldn't manage to put down the junk food.
I am aware I have an addiction and when you do, it's so easy for everything to be clouded by it, by excuses, by justifications that FEEL so real to you at the time but really.....if you look objectively, are bs.
Look at someone you love, be it platonic, family or romantic, who doesn't want to lose you (and who you don't want to leave behind) and tell them you'd rather have junk food than stick around and grow old together.
Some day we'll be grey hairs!
It's time...I just couldn't do it, it was time to do something. Joey was so concerned for my health, I wanted gastric bypass, I felt weak, I didn't feel worth the fabulous life of a thin person after all I'd put my body through. Once again, I started on a path to wellness, a different kind of wellness maybe, for someone else, and here I am to tell you, you will start to do it for you once you realize just how worth it you are.
Nothing in life is a hard and fast rule, and this approach may not work for everyone, but people discount it so quickly I thought I'd stand up for it for once. Basically don't shut down any approach, if it might help you get there, try it. Give it your all, for yourself, or for your loved ones.
*Thanks supermom blues, for sending that link to Ruby's blog in my comment section. I appreciate it. I adore her! Anyhow I wrote her a comment and part of it I mentioned her friends, and how lucky she is to have supportive people in her life and how lucky they are to have her. That's where this blog post came from*