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“Acceptance is not submission..."

"Acceptance is not submission; it is acknowledgement of the facts of a situation. Then deciding what you're going to do about it."

So have any of you been stalling out? How are you dealing with it? For those of you who haven't yet, how are you planning on dealing with it when that time comes?

I've given it some thought, and have decided against doing the juice fast. I realized it made me cranky and with my unhealthy dieting history it had the potential to take me to a bad place. I have accepted that I'm stalling out.

I've reduced my cals (after first trying to increase them also with no results), increased my exercise....nothing is happening and I've decided that is okay. I've had a steady 8-9+ lb loss every month for the last 7 months or so. This happens, stalls and plateaus, they happen and they are unfortunately a part of the process.

I'm glad I lost almost 70 lbs before it happened, I'm trying to be thankful for that at the very least. I'm far happier where I am now. I'm so much healthier. I'm the kind of person who gets bored sitting around and then I go for a walk for no good reason or I do yoga or my stationary depending on the craptastic Pittsburgh weather.

I'm happy with who I am in this very moment. Yes I'm frustrated that my loss has stalled out completely, that I am ONE measley lb away from 229, a brand new decade to celebrate. But I will get there, as long as I keep doing what I'm doing, the scale will move eventually. For now, I have to accept this is what my body wants to do, that is a fact. 

What I'm going to do about it is keep on truckin' until the weight starts to fall off again, I'll maybe try calorie cycling or something next week if it still hasn't budged but I'm just not mentally able to do anything like a fast/that is too extreme.

I'm not gaining and that is the important thing. Like my sparkbuddy Renee says, it's maintenance in training. I just have to keep telling myself that. It's going to come off, and when it does I'll be all the more thankful and proud that I stuck through it this time instead of getting frustrated, giving up,then gaining it all back and more.

I can do this. and I count my resolve as a NSV. :)  How about you?


  1. I had a month and a half of NSVs and no significant movement on the scale (any downs immediately followed by right back up to where I'd been). I got 1 scale victory and who knows what'll happen next week. It's important to not be impatient in figuring out what you have to tweak to continue taking the weight off. It's great that you are accepting it as maintenance in training, that you've lost so much weight already and that you haven't gained any back. Keep working at it. Something will click with your body and until it does, don't lose hope.

  2. Do you take your measurement? Try that. Sometimes you will have changes in your measurements but not on the scale. That can help get you through the frustrations.

  3. I just wanted to tell you, you're right, it will go down again, I had many, many stalls like that while losing my 3 and a half stone (another half stone to go to my target). It was hard at the start because I was addicted to that feeling of 'winning' or doing good, but in time I realised that the stalls are just normal, sometimes because you are innocently making a mistake with too many cals from something/foods that don't suit or whatever (but so long as they're from healthy food sources who really cares?), or just because your body simply isn't ready to drop the weight. You are in a process, you are doing brilliantly, and you will get more comfortable with the stalls, I promise :) Congrats on all your wonderful work and progress, this is some of the hardest stuff, it gets easier as you go, I promise.

  4. Stacy, I do, I've lost about 7.5 inches in the last 2 months or so, so there are changes, I know, it's just frustrating, but I'm not letting it get to me at the moment. :)

    Lou thanks for the encouragement! Like all things I suppose it will get easier with time. Thanks. :D

  5. I've just gotten over a stall myself. For weeks I only got losses of .4's or .2's of a pound. How I kept my motivation up this time around, when usually I'd just turn to all the food I'd been foregoing "for nothing", I don't know. I just kept focusing on the end, thinking, if I don't keep sticking with this, 6 months from now, I will be no thinner than now, and maybe fatter, just like I have for the last 12 years.

    So I just stuck with it, kept increasing my exercise, and the last two weeks showed a loss of 2.2 pounds. I know another stall is just around the corner and that I'll have to just push past that one too. It is hard. I feel your pain. Blog out your furstrations. And just hand in there. Envision yourself at goal...and keep that image of yourself in the forefront when tempted.


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