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I Was a Fat Bride

Our wedding pictures are the first thing you see when you walk into our home. 



Joey and I have been together for over 22 years. We've both gained and lost a lot of weight over the course of our relationship. Then we regained, and re-lost, you know how it goes. We got married on our 19 year anniversary, which is in March.  We had decided to get married just four months prior. So after what our friends teased was a 'brief 19 year courtship", we decided to just go ahead and do it. I know there are a million blogs and articles about losing weight for your wedding. This is not one of them. I had four months to lose weight. I don't really even remember what was going on, but I had NO desire to diet or attempt to lose weight and so I just...didn't. Joey lost a bit of weight so he could wear that fancy vest. I appreciate the effort, he looked handsome in it. :)

We thought we would never get married. We didn't see the point, we kind of still don't, and luckily, because we're 'doing it right', nothing has changed due to marriage. Other than maybe our tax forms. Our wedding had more to do with enjoying the many legal advantages of marriage than it did for our clearly undying love for each other. We had been together for 19 years at that point, a lack of love or commitment to each other, was not the reason for us not getting married sooner.



I thought a lot before the wedding, of how people cry, they don't want to be a fat bride. They don't want their wedding pictures to be of them, in that state. I see tons of this stuff online. I wasn't sure how I'd feel about the pictures once I saw them. (Taken by my amahzing sister at Mara Leigh Photos) I was at my highest weight ever the DAY I got married. Posing for pics was a little nerve wracking, and my sister is short, so maybe some were not such a flattering angle. ha.

 It didn't matter though, because that day, I was SO happy. Legal reasons be damned, I was STILL marrying this amazing man I have shared more than half my life with, and THAT is what I associate with my pictures. I feel like I was beautiful, like I could see myself the way Joey sees me. It was a small wedding. Very chill, no chicken dance, nothing goofy like that. We just shared a meal with some of our friends, listened to some good music, had a little wine, and then spent the night in one of Pittsburgh's fanciest hotels. (on the 19th floor, with 19 yellow roses awaiting me when I walked in the door.) I was worried my self esteem would tank, I'd hate my wedding pictures, but, no. I didn't. I love them dearly. Because they are of us, sharing an amazing day together.

We could have waited, I could have lost 70 lbs, or 90 lbs, before getting married. I mean, I have before. But no, I chose to not put my life on hold until I was thinner. I'm glad that I didn't, it taught me an important lesson about self love. Yes, I'm trying to lose weight. I want to be healthier, and have more energy, and damn if I don't live on the third floor. It would be nice if the steps weren't a challenge every day. I'll get there, but I will not put my life on hold until I do. I was a fat bride, and I don't regret it for a moment.
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  1. LynDecember 16, 2017 at 9:50 PM

    I loved reading this. Thank you for sharing it... and you are beautiful! I love the wedding pictures.

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  2. UnknownDecember 18, 2017 at 5:36 PM

    You are an attractive couple, and I'm glad you went ahead with the wedding instead of waiting. The wedding photos are wonderful!

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