So last night I went out with a new friend I met online. We were talking about my area where I live, and how people will yell stuff at me. I once had someone throw a half eaten apple at my head as they yelled "Fat bitch!"
He said I need to move.
ha.
That would be admitting defeat! :P
Anyhow, a friend of mine recently had a similar experience. Mind you this girl is a healthy weight, downright thin now, she's lost a good bit. She texted me pretty furious that some girls said something like, "Can you believe she left the house in that? Look at that spare tire." She was wearing a winter coat and jeans so something tells me that she heard the wrong part of a conversation unrelated to herself and internalized it. BUT...that doesn't mean that people don't still say rude things to thin people.
I am so over wanting to lose weight for other people, or so people will see me in a certain way. I don't care. If someone called me a fat bitch today, that wouldn't change the fact that I have lost 70 lbs and I'm still going. When I get to goal they will probably still say it. Does it matter? No. You can't please everyone. It's a fact. I will never be thin enough or pretty enough or whatever enough to impress every person out there to the point that I'll never hear a rude comment thrown my way again.
So why does it matter? If I go home and eat a pint of ben and jerry's because someone made me feel bad about myself, what does that say about me? That person is going to go on with their life as if I didn't exist.. If I do anything except go on with my life as if they didn't exist, I'm doing myself a disservice. I'm giving someone else that much more power over me, and that is something I'm not interested in. The insults these days, they roll off my back.
You can't please everyone, so you might as well just try and please yourself, that's all you can really control. If you can wake up in the morning and feel good about yourself regardless of what the world has thrown at you, you've won.
Anyhow, I was feeling a bit ranty today.
P.S I'm losing weight again, will adjust my ticker on the 9th.
He said I need to move.
ha.
That would be admitting defeat! :P
Anyhow, a friend of mine recently had a similar experience. Mind you this girl is a healthy weight, downright thin now, she's lost a good bit. She texted me pretty furious that some girls said something like, "Can you believe she left the house in that? Look at that spare tire." She was wearing a winter coat and jeans so something tells me that she heard the wrong part of a conversation unrelated to herself and internalized it. BUT...that doesn't mean that people don't still say rude things to thin people.
I am so over wanting to lose weight for other people, or so people will see me in a certain way. I don't care. If someone called me a fat bitch today, that wouldn't change the fact that I have lost 70 lbs and I'm still going. When I get to goal they will probably still say it. Does it matter? No. You can't please everyone. It's a fact. I will never be thin enough or pretty enough or whatever enough to impress every person out there to the point that I'll never hear a rude comment thrown my way again.
You can't please everyone, so you might as well just try and please yourself, that's all you can really control. If you can wake up in the morning and feel good about yourself regardless of what the world has thrown at you, you've won.
Anyhow, I was feeling a bit ranty today.
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